Friends and Family Loving Arms Guide


  1. If you haven’t been through it personally, don’t give advice or share your story, just listen. (if you have been through losing a baby personally, wait 2- 3 weeks to share your story and make sure it ends in hope and encouragement)
  2. Hug and Pray with them regularly
  3. Pray for them independently
  4. Bring them a meal (don’t stay to eat with them) and/or give restaurant gift card to them
  5. Give them privacy and space, but do call and check on them and let them know you’re thinking of them and ask if they need anything.
  6. Let them know you’re grieving with them, but don’t make your grief equal to theirs in that they feel the need to comfort you.
  7. Tell them you love them often
  8. It’s okay to say:
    1. “I’m so sorry”, but God loves you and I Love you and I’m here for you.” And hug them.
    2. “For the Lord is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.” – Psalm 100:5
    3. “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” – Proverbs 3:5